Engagement 101: In-Law Myths
Posted by Jessica Sharpe on Mon, Feb 20, 2012
There are many myths when it comes to in-laws. In our pop culture, in-laws are often seen as meddling busybodies who are only interested in when you’re going to give them grandchildren. Fortunately, most of impressions are just stereotypes. Here are some of the myths you might have heard about dealing with in-laws, and some information on how to get along with your in-laws during your engagement.
Myth 1: In-laws want to run your life.
Well, not really. It might feel that way, but if you look at it as having more parent-figures who are interested in your relationship and want it to succeed, it can feel a little more manageable. These are people who care about you and your partner, and want the best for you.
Myth 2: In-laws want grandchildren as soon as possible.
There may be a little bit of truth to this one, but who can blame them? The problems come when they hint -- or ask straight out -- about when you’re having children, because that’s more your business than theirs. Having an answer ready -- “We’re still planning the wedding, thanks!” -- can help send the message that all things will come in their time.
Myth 3: In-laws nag and meddle.
It’s true that some people have difficult parents, and if their constructive criticism becomes abusive, then you have a problem. During your engagement, you’ll be feeling out how to relate to your partner’s parents, and it helps to have an open mind about suggestions they might have.
Getting along with your future in-laws during your engagement doesn’t have to be difficult. Look past the myths and see them as people to get the most out of this special relationships. How do you get along with your future in-laws?
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